My wife (35F) and I (35M) have been together for 15 years, no children. She has put on a lot of weight in recent years. She now weighs over 260 pounds and is in the obese category by BMI. Over the years I tried to help her lose weight and went to the gym with her and also dieted, but lately she seems to have changed her mind and just accepted herself for who she is. She goes to the gym, watches what she eats, but progress is minimal. She may be in denial that this is a problem, which is frustrating. Problems for me include: I am within a healthy weight range and enjoy activities such as walking, cycling and running. She is now physically unable to participate in them, but generally leads a more sedentary lifestyle with limited interest in such activities. Everything I do without her causes tension and controversy. If I sit at home and do nothing with her, she's fine. She thinks that I should choose a hobby that she can do, not what I want to do. Physically, she no longer attracts me due to excessive weight gain. I'm also worried that things have already gotten to the point where this is directly affecting her health, which will only get worse with age. How much time would you realistically give someone to lose about 130 pounds and change their lifestyle? Is it fair for me to expect this? If I'm not happy now, would it be fair of me to wait another 2-3 years for my happiness without the certainty that things will get better? I filed for divorce,https://onlinedivorcer.com/online-divorce-missouri, now it's a matter of life and death.
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